How soon do you message after a great first date?
Top answer
Later that same night
Chosen by 68% of respondents — 1,281 votes
Full results
Men vs women
Later that same night
The next morning
Leave it 24 hours
A couple of days
A few days at least – leave them waiting
How different age groups voted
| Answer | 18-24 | 25-34 | 35-44 | 45-54 | 55-64 | 65+ |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Later that same night | 59 | 129 | 171 | 251 | 315 | 350 |
| The next morning | 11 | 24 | 39 | 66 | 78 | 110 |
| Leave it 24 hours | 3 | 8 | 18 | 33 | 39 | 51 |
| A couple of days | 1 | 7 | 9 | 16 | 20 | 15 |
| A few days at least – leave them waiting | 2 | 6 | 12 | 5 | 14 | 14 |
What the numbers say
Methodology: This poll was answered by verified members of Over60s DatingOnline.com between 10 July 2024 and today. All votes are cast by real, registered members. Results are shown as percentages of total responses and are not adjusted or weighted. The gender breakdown reflects members who selected Male or Female; Couple and Other categories may also have voted but are not shown separately in this chart. Age bands reflect self-reported data at time of registration.
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With 1,883 votes cast, "Later that same night" came out on top — chosen by 68% of respondents. "The next morning" followed at 17.5%, showing the community is anything but one-note on this topic.
Men and women were broadly aligned on this one — both groups leaned toward the same answer at similar rates, suggesting this is less a gender divide and more a shared view across the community.