What does our community really think?
Real dating questions, answered by real over-60 members. No opinion pieces — just honest votes from people who know exactly what they're talking about.
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Most popularWould you date someone who doesn't believe in marriage?
Would you date someone who smoked everyday?
Most said: "No — it's a deal-breaker"
RelationshipsCan you ever be friends with an ex?
Most said: "Yes, but it takes time"
First datesWhat's the perfect length for a first date?
Most said: "1–2 hours"
RelationshipsDo you believe in soulmates?
Most said: "Yes, I believe in soulmates"
Online datingWhere do you look first when browsing dating profiles?
Most said: "Their photo"
First datesWhat's your biggest fear going out on a first date?
Most said: "Not knowing what to talk about"
First datesHow long should a first date last?
Most said: "2–3 hours"
RomanceHow often do you like to do fancy date nights?
Most said: "Once a month"
Deal-breakersWhat's the biggest red flag for you on a date?
Most said: "Being on their phone"
First datesDo you discuss politics on the first date?
Most said: "No — too divisive"
Money & datingHow do you feel about splitting the bill on a first date?
Most said: "Split it equally"
Deal-breakersWhat's the biggest green flag for you on a date?
Most said: "They really listen"
RomanceWhat's the best kind of date for getting to know someone?
Most said: "A walk somewhere scenic"
First datesHow soon do you message after a great first date?
Most said: "Same day"
First datesDo you get nervous before a first date?
Most said: "Yes, every time!"
Online datingHow soon after matching are you comfortable meeting?
Most said: "After a few days chatting"
Online datingDigital or physical dating — what's your take?
Most said: "A mix of both"
First datesFirst date dilemma: do you reveal your bedtime?
Most said: "No — keep some mystery"
RelationshipsAre your actions matching what you're looking for?
Most said: "Not always, honestly"
Money & datingFirst dinner date — who picks up the bill?
Most said: "Split it equally"
RelationshipsDo you seek emotional safety or excitement?
Most said: "Emotional safety"
RelationshipsWhat is your ultimate "low-stakes" superpower?
Most said: "Making people laugh"
RomanceWhat's the most satisfying chore to do together?
Most said: "Cooking together"
RelationshipsWhat matters most when considering a new relationship after having children?
Most said: "Their relationship with your children"
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